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My "other" family
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Entered on: December 15, 2008 8:43 AM by RobotSpider
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Went to Chicago this weekend to meet my 'new' sisters and grandmother. For anyone who isn't aware, I met my birth-mother for the first time just a couple months ago. Never before have I ever been considered the tall one.
Left to right: Alex (13), Madeline (16), Grandma Leidy, Beth (mom), Erin (19), and Robot.
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NEWS 597 - 10 Comments
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Very cool Spider! I was wondering how things were going after you met your birth-mother.
It appears things are going well and I am very happy for you.
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Thanks. Things are going scarily well. I was talking to my doctor about it, and he has a daughter who is adpoted. They found her birth mom last year, and it didn't go so well. She was nigh on 200Kg and working as a "telephone conversation specialist"... awkward. I think it's, unfortunately, a pretty rare situation where both the birth-mom and the adoptee both turn out relatively normal. That's the main reason many adoptees hesitate to look. I think it illustrates the difference between someone who makes an honest mistake early in life and someone who starts making bad decisions and never learns.
When Beth was pregnant with me, she was just 16, but she went to a school for pregnant teens, run by nuns, so she could still take classes and get the medical care she needed. After she had me, she finished school and went on to graduate college. How you pull yourself together after something like that is beyond me.
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Wow, congrats, Spider. That's really cool.
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That is a sweet story. I am very happy for you. Glad things turned out way better than they could. That has got to be a weird situation - meeting a whole new family.
By the way.... DUDE - you sisters are hot!
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Congradulantions. I'll refrain from my usual absurd comments as this is probably a special moment for you.
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Spider - Do your sisters play Gears? 
Seriously: congrats!
Fatty - Get your 360 yet?
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Congrats, Spider. Have your entire family met yet?
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They don't play, but the youngest one definitely would (no 360, yet).
Haven't gotten both families together yet, but I know my moms have exchanged letters a few times. Seeing that my older sister lives in Texas, my younger sister lives in London, my brother is in Detroit, mom is in Houghton Lake, MI, and my Bio-Fam is in Chicago, it'll probably be a while before they are all together :)
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That's awesome. Further congradulantions...
What I find odd about your story is this: "she went to a school for pregnant teens, run by nuns." I don't mean to make fun of it, because obviously it benefitted her. But such segregation seems silly by today's standards, and really, we're only talking about the 1970s here...
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Swerb said:
That's awesome. Further congradulantions...
What I find odd about your story is this: "she went to a school for pregnant teens, run by nuns." I don't mean to make fun of it, because obviously it benefitted her. But such segregation seems silly by today's standards, and really, we're only talking about the 1970s here...
It does seem odd by today's standards. I think it was a combination of things that made her go there. Obviously, even in the 70s, not a lot of public schools were set up to accomodate a pregnant teen. She wouldn't have been able to finish the whole school year anyway. The obvious stigma. The fact that she would get all her schooling AND medical care. And while her mother was supportive, dad was an alcoholic who's first words in response to the news that she was pregnant were "You're going to have an abortion."
Gosh. Really Grandpa? I didn't get you anything...
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